After discussing with [...]]]> How I wish to spread this concept of SuperIndianKid to all the cities and schools in India.
I spoke to film maker Sharad Navale today and was extremely thankful for the time we talked over the phone. I like people who know their subject thoroughly and also guide people to the right direction.

After discussing with him I realized I have no knowledge about film making. And I did not have any passion to be one. So I will have to depend on him and lot many people to help me in my venture.

He mentioned that before starting to spend money on the expensive HD quality movie which is what Discovery Channel accepts, it would be a good idea to first get their approval.
He also suggested that I could use a lesser expensive camera to shoot the daily activities and make a documentary which can then be used to show to schools etc to promote the concept.

I think that was a fair amount of information he shared with me.

I have written to Mr Sudesh Kumar of Discovery Channel India, who sits in Delhi office.

Dear Mr Sudesh,

I am Mrs Madhurie Singh, based at Pune, India.

I am a school and educational product reviewer. I also conduct workshops for parents on various parenting needs.

In the last few years, I have discovered that Indian parents are becoming over ambitious and wish to transform their kids into super kids.

Academics at school is not enough for these parents and they pressurize their kids to take classes on various activities. And the strange reasons of sending their kids to join activities are like,

1. The activity center being close to their house.
2. Their friend’s child is going.
3. The fee for an activity is affordable.
4. One of the parents wanted to become a dancer and hence wishes to see that their child takes up dancing
and so on..

This has led to an unreasonable level of stress and pressure on the lives of kids and parents. The kids are committing suicide as they are not able to live up to their parent’s or school’s expectations.
There have been 25 suicides in just 15 days before the results of Xth std was to be declared in Mumbai.

I have realized that someone has to do something and have planned this concept, which I am 100% positive, will be a starting point in venting out stress from Indian kids and parents.
We are starting a center where kids will be assessed on their Strengths and Weaknesses, their Likeness and Dislikeness, their IQ and their 8 Intelligence levels.
Each kid is born with intelligences. We believe that in schools only Linguistic and Logical Intelligence are assessed. In case a child is below average in these two, the school will label the the child as a failure. But since out of 8, there are 6 more intelligences that he might possess above average levels, he might actually be successful in non academic areas without stressing out.

The kids will go through 2 hours of 50 activities, for three months, based on these 8 intelligence along with the teaching methodologies like that in Gurukuls.
The activities are in the range of football, karate, yoga, tennis, kathak dance, ball room dance, painting, drawing, tabla, harmonium, singing, story telling, chess, solving puzzles etc.

At the end of the 3 months, the kids will be assessed again, based on the various tests and the video which will capture the kids’ expressions for all 3 months. The trainers will be assessing the kids daily and writing down their observations. All the inputs will be together used to derive to one or two activities that the child is interested, has aptitude/intelligence and has a passion to follow it whole heartedly. Never at any point the children will be forced to participate without their wishes or be known to them that they are being assessed.

Based on this information the parents can then judiciously plan to encourage their kid in that particular activity which may become his source of living too in future.

My deepest desire is to relieve the pressure and see no child committing suicide because of lack of awareness or because of confused parents.
I am sure this concept will work. But wish that more and more people, cities and schools adopt it in either the same way or with any change they wish to incorporate.

I am starting my first batch on 2nd March 2010 with 10 kids as an experiment. Parents have booked my center for next three batches. So I have a feeling that all parents were waiting for something like this to be available.

I do not have the funds to create awareness alone. But I could think of only one media that I believe will help spread the awareness about this concept. I am not keen on any financial gain, as long as the stress is vented out of our society.

Kindly reply back with your views and comments.
I am all set to make a documentary for Discovery channel for this noble cause.

I am waiting for a positive reply.

Meanwhile I do plan to get going with an economical version of the documentary for the local audiences.

It was never true until I conceived the idea of SuperIndianKid. Until then, I was toiling on several things that have been already done millions of times in the past by millions of people. The passion was not there, until I truly started thinking for [...]]]> I loved this para and can’t seem to read it less.

It was never true until I conceived the idea of SuperIndianKid. Until then, I was toiling on several things that have been already done millions of times in the past by millions of people. The passion was not there, until I truly started thinking for kids and their well beings. I have to thank my two babies for always jumping in front of me and making my neuron think only and always about them.

I do not find any comment or any person trying to dodge me off my track. Every thing is crystal clear in my mind. I know what I want to do. I know how I want to execute. I know who will be able to work with me. I know how and what are the difficulties I will have to face. I know who I should value and how I must avoid like plague. I am so sure that I have to make a movie on the making of the SuperIndianKid. I know it’s costing me a bomb per day, yet I want to shoot the whole 60 days of the first batch.

I’m not literally asking the question, but posing a question that we face every day. This is something we think about in all the different decisions we go through in life. It can range from career, financial and personal matters that are all dear to us. I’ve got a slightly different perspective on this topic.

All my life – I’ve faced this dilemma and I’ve realized the formula that works for me. I choose to run. Whatever the situation maybe, but when that inexplicable feeling inside me tells me to go for it – I choose to listen to it. What I’ve realized is that when you decide to go 110% on your chosen path, the energy and time you normally would put at the fear of failure – goes away. You have no option to fail and you choose to put all your energies on the positives. Failure never becomes an option and it shouldn’t be. Life doesn’t always work that way – but the chances are – if you build your DNA to grow a wall that can eliminate any negative noise – your chance of success just grows astronomically. Always stand up for what you believe or want. That inner voice is your friend.

Now – I’m not saying I jump into everything “gung-ho” – there are limitations here. Look at the state of our economy it’s the result of the build-up from the credit crisis we face today. That’s a mistake that’s costing many Americans and the overall economy dearly. The difference here is – separating tangible risk with material risk. If we choose to invest materially into something that we can’t have control of – like money – the risk of failure increases. However, if we choose to invest our time, focus, energy, discipline, values on all the tangible goals we have in life – you begin to build that inner-confidence that defines your DNA to succeed.

Infact till today I have encountered only one person who tried to question the concept of SuperIndianKid. My reaction to try understand his reasoning. But realized he was unclear and had no reason to even argue against or for. Dropped him from my list of trust worthy people.

The concept of SuperIndianKid = expose and assess kids’ abilities and happiness areas.

Execution = will fill in the blanks soon.

Well was reading Gchahal’s blog and thought of writing mine.

1. Kids

2. Loyal people

3. Honesty

4. Appreciation

I got a message from one person who was planning to start a new hobby center. Went and checked out the place. It seemed at that time the best option. What more should I ask for? A big hall with [...]]]> The center concept was extremely interesting, but hunting for the place was both challenging and disappointing.

I got a message from one person who was planning to start a new hobby center. Went and checked out the place. It seemed at that time the best option. What more should I ask for? A big hall with wall to wall mirror, attached toilet, low rent and the most interesting part was the place was at the happening place called Koregaon Park of Pune.

But it was too good to be true. The owner initially had a confusion with the hall I was interested and the rates we finalized. When that was sorted out, the timing was a problem. I wanted 5-7pm. And that’s a prime time for his business too. When there seemed a solution for the time too, the problem of advertising was something we were at loggerheads. I wanted my brand name SuperIndianKid out in the open right next to his brand. But imagining the personality of my center brand name, he was at least candid enough to acknowledge, that my brand name SuperIndianKid will eat away his brand name. So like a protective father he guarded and did what he should have done. I did not wish to compromise and chose to hunt for another place.

I had an idea. On 14th Nov 2009, the manager cum trustee of Preet Mandir had given me an open offer to start activities for the orphanage. I always wanted to do something for them. So I proposed we share the existing school of Preet Mandir with both our kids and their kids. We teach their kids, they allow us to use the place.

Everything was again perfect and planned and ready to be executed.

But the manager changed his mind in the last minute! Why, I can only guess, that he chickened out because of several thoughts, but since I am not sure, will not pen down here. I have never believed in tarnishing anyone’s image unless a larger section of people were suffering.

Disappointment was a tiny word in front of our feelings. But I truly believe and more so now, that whatever happens, happens for best.

The very same day we hunted down a few brokers from makaan.com and called them. The next day we had a deal. A cute little bunglow which was perfect our venture.

The place was 5minutes from kalyani nagar and in a less crowded and safer place than koregaon park. Ample parking area. All amenities right at the walking distance from the center. We had a place now for 24 hours at our disposal at the same rate at what we were planning to pay for just 2 hours at koregaon park!  Also there would be no one to question us, unnecessarily advice us and take undue advantage of us.

The place seemed like a blessing in disguise.

SO finally our first center of SuperIndianKid is launching on 2nd March 2010 at BT Kawade Road, Ghorpuri.

It’s been a hectic two month for me. Managing my time amidst 2-3 workshops, kids, exams, home, lectures and a new venture.

I want to thank each one of you who has been reading my blogs and reviews. I have learnt immensely from each communication. The workshop in school admission was an eye opener to [...]]]> Dear all,

It’s been a hectic two month for me. Managing my time amidst 2-3 workshops, kids, exams, home, lectures and a new venture.

I want to thank each one of you who has been reading my blogs and reviews. I have learnt immensely from each communication. The workshop in school admission was an eye opener to many, including me.

During my workshops and a small mishap, a new idea took birth in my mind. Then there were meetings with several school heads, psychologists and counselors from Pune on 26^th January. And I was assured that I HAVE to give birth to this new conceptual baby ASAP.

It’s my way of doing a tiny bit by starting a move to vent off the pressure from our society.

Having had the opportunity to grow in a colony of a public sector company, the club was my training ground for most of the sports and activities that I have picked. We had free access to table tennis, carom, chess, badminton, swimming, libraries, painting, dance and plays everyday. I realize the importance of those facilities today and yearned to provide similar exposure to my sons. But, to my dismay, all the activites which my kids’ showed any interest were too expensive to afford on a trial basis.

But the last straw that actually pushed me into this new concept was a martial art teacher in my society.  On reference from another society member, I took the responsibility of starting his classes in my society club house. But was shocked when he started asking for Rs 1000/- every month for some reason or the other, over and above the monthly fee. Later on I did a check on his credentials and was shocked to learn a few non existing claims! Even though I do not give much importance to the certificates, the fact the in martial art forms, only affiliated institutes can send their students to interstate, inter school and national level competitions, was a disturbing fact. I called up the Indian Olympic Association and finally realized that the association was not affiliated.

That’s when I realized that how ignorant we are and how much we moms need to enquire before hading over our kids to any training or classes.

So while discussing with my fellow professors at the MBA institute, we decided that we need not wait for anyone else to take up this issue. So two moms (one is me  :)) got together and planned to start off a center which will solve our problem.

A center which will be based on the Gurukul like system of learning. Why gurukul? Cuz, I personally want my kids to go through our age old system of learning. A system where learning is fun not a pressure. A system, where kids learn to respect elders, respect all jobs, absorb knowledge by interacting with gurus from various fields and experiment with most if not all types of available activities. In the process, the kids start showing interest and talent in one or two specific activities. This one or two activity will be later on honed by the gurus in a more dedicated style. The gurus take the responsibility of training, arranging the competitions, travel etc for each of their disciples.

Are you still with me?  :)

Well, the center aims at trying to provide a ground to all your kids, in various activities and in a true sense slowly but steadily provide an alternative career. A career which involves both the heart and the mind 100%. And as we all know, any thing that we are passionate about, only brings happiness, satisfaction and of course success. And have you heard of success is followed by a good bank balance! Well, whether we accept it not, all parents have this fear about their kid’s future and more specifically, if their child will be able to love a good stress free life. We have somehow got stuck to the idea that being financially sound is the only  thing in the life. Also that to be financially sound, academics is the only solution! Well, no doubt, the school and all the education that our kids acquire from the academics is important, but becoming an engineer and a doctor are not the only career now!

It’s high time we woke up to face the reality and broaden our minds to other career options available to our kids. There are more than hundred fields other than being an engineer, MBA or doctor. (What an irony, everyone in my family belongs only to these three fields).

Even I want to be assured somehow that my kids will lead a HAPPY life, a stress free life and a financially stable one.

So if I tell you that an average engineer earns 30-40k (post tax) per month, an average doctor earns(post tax) 30-40k whereas an average choreographer earns 50k-1 lac (tax???) per month, an average martial art trainer earns 40-1Lac (tax??) per month after spending only 4-5 hours per day as compared to 9-10 hours spent by an engineer / doctor!

Shocking, isn’t it?  But on the contrary, I found this to be a pleasant surprised. I got down and did a survey and was confirmed about the figures.

Then I started interviewing all the top personalities from non-academic areas, who chose to follow their passions, and today are HAPPY people.
(Excerpts from these interviews will be soon available to you all with their pictures.) Remember a HAPPY mind, always is successful.

So my dear parents, who have trusted and have been following my blog, this one is for YOUR KID.

SuperIndianKid ! As nothing less will describe them with the overall exposure that we will be providing to all our kids.

I had to build another site where you can avail all information on any activity that your kid deserves to be encouraged.

Together we will help our society by venting out the pressure from the lives of our Kids.

Are you ready to help your kid live a HAPPY stress free life and achieve what is most passionate to him?

YES I want to be a part of the stress free society or visit www.SuperIndianKid.com

I am nothing ever Maa ! Its you who lives in me yesterday , today and forever Maa ! I can feel the pain from the time of my birth when u gave up ur sleep for me Maa ! When i found u sitting near my [...]]]> My Maa , You are my Rose !
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Posted on May 10, 2008 under My Lov Only !

I am nothing ever
Maa !
Its you who lives in me
yesterday , today and forever
Maa !
I can feel the pain
from the time of my birth
when u gave up ur sleep for me
Maa !
When i found u sitting near my bed
whole night with tears in ur eyes
Maa !
How can I forget the silent fights for me
Maa !
U are my confidence and strength
Maa !
U encouraged me to do what I believed
Maa !
The cries still pain me when u did kanyadaan
Maa !
I understood u more after my kids
Maa !
Forgive me for all my silly ways
for my sharp tongue
for thinking I know better
for not being there when u need me most
Maa !
I want to write more but my tears won’t let me
Maa !
I lov you Maa !

I have had two Cesarean-sections and have got back to my original shape within 6 months with minimal stretch marks.

Now may be these were due to the one or many [...]]]> Our skin is living thing too ! and will adjust to the body and take shape slowly over the period of time.

I have had two Cesarean-sections and have got back to my original shape within 6 months with minimal stretch marks.

Now may be these were due to the one or many factors that I took care of in my pregnancy.

1. I drank good amount of water.

2. Applied Shea Butter cream regularly.

3. Went to the gym after my 3rd month of pregnancy till I could manage.

4. Walked around and did everything myself as far as possible.

5. After my surgery healed, I joined back gym after 3 months! Yes! Initially I started with light weights and later moved on to heavy weights.

6. I made sure that I did mostly lower body workout only.

7. I kept the cardiovascular exercises to 10 min only.

8. I walked 30 min briskly daily before or after dinner.

9. A few years later I had again put on weight but recently managed to lose 8 kg in 3 months time. Again I did everything but with more intensity and difficulty. Mebbe cuz now my age mattered wrt the metabolism. Yes this time I do have stretch marks I did not apply shea butter at all. I am now starting on daily body massage with shea butter . Its working like a miracle. The skin is becoming taut and firmer. Of course I am doing weight training and cardio too. I play badminton and football once a week. Water, food etc are as per my BMI and height.

So moral of the story is … you will reap the fruits of all the hardwork with patience …. loose skin will become taut and firm but provided you work towards it too.

Remember it takes time to get back tight skin especially on the face after a drastic fat loss. But it’s not impossible.

Also there are special face massage and creams that work if applied correctly. And if nothing works there is the DOCTOR like the famous line from our very own bold gal Rakhi Sawant.

I am now working on face muscles and skin too. May be will write an article soon on that too. So keep reading and subscribe to the site.